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The day I accepted the inevitable – ageing

What a place to have a eureka moment.

I was flat on my back, eyes to the ceiling slightly seeing double, holding my g-string in place at the top of my hips with a beauty therapist smoothing wax along my pelvis. But something about the brief conversation, in which we discovered we’re both the same age, made me realise I am for sure getting older.

It’s a fact I’ve dismissed since maybe 24. This is despite being reminded by talks of mortgages and buying-to-let, becoming increasingly broody among other things, that I’m indeed closer to 30 than 20. So while the therapist and I discussed a spray solution to ingrown hairs, I brought up switching up my skincare regime for my “changing skin”. She laughed in agreement because now we have to consider “moisturising more and using sun protection!”

Yes, we do.

Fortunately, being black has blessed me with a youthful exterior so visible ageing isn’t necessarily a huge worry of mine –  I more so wonder when I will simply look my age – but something within our trivial chit chat connected me to this journey I’m on called ageing. And it wasn’t attached to either a positive or negative feeling, it just was.

Sure enough when I walked out of the Colchester salon in my very mismatched khaki, grey, striped, and printed outfit, which should never have seen the light of day, I vowed that on the way to the bank a few hours later, I wouldn’t dress for comfort and throw on the first item which lacked the caress of an iron, but would attempt to look like a lady. A 26-year-old lady.

The result was okay; an improvement on the usual but not as coiffed as 22-year-old Saoirse Ryan in the film Brooklyn whose Fifties style inspired me on screen this weekend. However, I acknowledged it’s time to accept growing up and allow myself to evolve again.

And at the time of writing this, I hadn’t even swapped my fitted dress for men’s marl tracksuit bottoms and a jumper – something is happening.

Wisdom Writers – Apply now!

Wisdom Writers, new creative writing programme in Birmingham with the self-published Annika Spalding. Deadline for submissions is just three days away on October 14.

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If you’ve followed me on my social media for a while now, you’ll know that I work closely with the phenomenal Marcia M. Spence of Success Makers.

It was with Marcia that I did my very first book reading at an event, way back at the start of 2014 and since then I have spoken and delivered workshops at her events.

wpiIt’s been brilliant actually because I have always been inspired by her own story of surviving domestic violence and living with mental health, and she has seen my personal and professional growth first hand. So much so that she recently awarded me as an honoury member of her Women of Power & Influence programme, which was a massive honour and gesture.

For some time now we have both discussed writing and have put together a writing programme, called Wisdom Writers, for women who are dedicated and committed…

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Festival of Ideas: Our Voices competition

Ayesha Jones explores the reality of being a dual heritage, second generation immigrant living in England and claims an award for Best Film. “The concept of identity is outdated. Humans have been migrating since we had feet,” she explains after her film screening. Read more here.

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I had the best birthday present yesterday! I won in the film category of Our Voices competition! With my film “Where do you come from.” The screening was held at Rivington Place in London and hosted by Adam Kammerling.

When I was 6 years old I was asked to explain where I come from, by a class mate. This was the first of many times I would have to expose my family history and defend my Identity. In this film, I take a journey back with my parents as they search for a place they can feel at home. This film explores the reality of being a dual heritage, 2nd generation immigrant living in England. What was once home to our ancestors may not be home to us. We write our own history, we make our own choices. My dad reassures me that ‘happiness is more about how you are…

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Antidote Street, the way forward when shop for black hair and skin care products @AntidoteStreet

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No more trekking all the way to Harslesden and/or Brixton to buy Jamaican Black Castor Oil!

Antidote Street is a brand new online destination for black hair and skin care products. Born out of a desire to revolutionise access to these products in the UK, Antidote Street offers a curated selection of products to meet the beauty needs of the woman or man of colour.

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The Adam & Eve Story

The Adam & Eve Story from the quirky Fresh Facade

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How I met Adam and Eve.

Earlier this year as I was facing my final university  essays and exams,

during the months of perpetual researching and essay writing at the 24 hour  library.

Adam,  a friendly stranger approached me to compliment my style and hair.

We would serially come together to mourn the loss of our freedom and the never ending mountain of work we had.

I was really bad at remembering names and Adam taught me the name association game.

The genius  that I am,… associated his name to Adam and Eve,  the first human beings, first lovers.

Difficult to forget.

One afternoon Adam called me to say ‘I have found my Eve and she is from Kenya!’

He passed the phone to his Eve and  she and I have been really good friends since.

These are  few shots taken by Eve on our last night out together.

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It wouldn’t be nothing without a woman, or a girl! Will it always be a mans world?

Punchy read on realigning the sexes by Ms. Awesome Ayesha Jones

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It wouldn’t be nothing without a woman, or a girl! Will it always be a mans world?

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I have often heard people say that “women and men are not equal.” To back up their argument a list of things that women can not do, that men can (and visa versa) would be added. Women might not piss standing up, and men might not be able to bare childeren, but ultimately woman and man are born equal! They are different, yes, but one is not more important than the other. One cannot survive without the other. Woman and man are meant to be a harmonious team! They are equal opposites! Just like an up and a down, night and day, push and pull, inhalation and exhalation. Man and woman are the two opposites of the same motion. However, when one tries to control, and overshadow the other. Or when one forgets…

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